A few days before Thanksgiving my husband and I had a rift between us. We were having a conversation and I got upset because of something he said that I knew was true–but it would mean that I would need to work some more on getting rid of a trigger point in our relationship.
My general mode in handling such conflict is to stonewall–go quiet and hold in my frustration or resentment or anger. But this time I knew I could choose something different. The challenge was wanting to!
I knew that the feelings I was having were hurting me and hurting my marriage. I knew that I didn’t want these feelings. And so I plowed through the embarrassment and stubbornness and took a walk into the hills.
I have a place I like to go when I’m feeling down and out. There is a little stream there. I sat down and started to talk. I actually talked into my phone. Usually I write out what I am feeling but that day it seemed better to talk it out. As I was expressing myself, I glanced down into the stream (which didn’t have much water in it!) and saw the following sign: